The Lifestyle Is Easier For Women, Right?
Maybe Not
Written by: Swing Life Club Last Update: February 5, 2023 Category: Editorial / Educational
I have heard the phrase that men in the lifestyle don't choose, they get chosen. That makes sense. It's easy to think that because sex is involved that women have the upper hand. Men are a dime a dozen and they are always wanting. I have always believed that when it comes to the world of heterosexual interaction that women have the power to assert their dominance. I mean "NO means NO" right? Well, it means that no matter what, and that means that men can say "NO" too. Some people believe that because there are so many guys out there in the lifestyle that ladies have a lot of choices, and especially when they are in a safe environment they can really manage the guys. Logically this really boils down to supply and demand. In the lifestyle there is less supply of ladies and plenty of men that are wanting. So one might think that there is a market advantage. Hopefully by the end of this article we can learn why the market needs an adjustment. I want to take the time to spell out why that just might not be the case. I mean think about what it must be like for a woman who spends all that time to look so awesome, and put herself out there in such an enormous way, just to end up being ignored or told no.
It is just as hard and sometimes even harder for women to be in the lifestyle than it is for men. There are all the hopes and expectations of meeting someone attractive inside and out. They get all dressed up for it, they want to have some social interaction, they want to feel attractive, and in the end for, many women, they want to be with someone who wants to be with them and is excited to be there. Well sometimes it just doesn't work like that. As guys we show up and sometimes think that we are done doing are job. Maybe we wonder why we didn't get what we want, but mostly we have gotten used to the idea that sometimes it just isn't our night. We had to learn early that we will hear a lot of "NOs" before we get a "YES!!". But for a lot of ladies, this is a new and anxious experience for them.
To start, women question their bodies all the time. It doesn't matter their size, shape, or whatever else. Many of them feel a lack of confidence every time they put on a pair of jeans. Guys come into the lifestyle for sex, and we just want to have sex. Most guys make an effort to look better when they go out, but a lot of guys just don't seem to care. Guys will venture out of their particular physical tastes in women just to get sex. They don't always worry that the hottest girl isn't available to them. Guys will enjoy time with a lady for lots of different reasons. Not only that, but guys are limited on the amount of experiences we can have in given amount of time, if ya know what I mean. So, they can be happy with even just one yes once in a while and realize that a "NO" is just a temporary thing. A little time talking and socializing for a guy can feel like success many times, or that progress has been made. A guy may not give a lot of weight to not getting in bed with someone, maybe because he has gotten used to the odds of it not happening. Ladies on the other hand may want to enjoy many different experiences. Maybe not in one night, and not just sex, but ladies sincerely want to feel good in their own skin. When they talk to someone and it doesn't go well they may be asking themselves, "What is wrong with me?"